We went to look for places together. We found something quickly. If it was taking a while, we probably would have started looking separately just for scheduling reasons, and if we saw a good place, scheduled a time to see it together. Prior to the moving in together discussions, we talked about where we wanted to live. I’m a city person. I’m not willing to live in the ‘burbs. Turns out he’s OK with that. When we eventually have a kid, the topic will likely come up again, with him wanting to move a little further to the outskirts than I’m willing, but I’m assuming we’ll compromise on something.

As for finances: we haven’t merged anything. And we’ve been living together for 2 years. We discussed how much rent we’d each be willing to pay , which is equal. So we each pay half. I pay gas and electric. He pays cable and internet. We more or less take turns when going out together for dinner, etc. It’s not something we’re entirely concerned about being 50/50. I think we’re both willing to pay more than half if it keeps things calm and happy. He’s much better about money than I am–even though I make more, he has more. I have more shoes. ;-)



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